Lupe

She is a beautiful woman. Soft spoken and intelligent and unlike many of the women from where I am from. I know that I do not know her very well, but I like what I do know about her.

I was preparing some photos to send Lupe when I got a call from the accounting office that does my taxes. My tax documents were ready for my signature and since I needed clarification on some other tax matters, I drove over to their office right away. As I was signing the forms and chatting with one of the ladies, I noticed Lupe sitting across the room. I though, “What a pleasant surprise!”

I said hello and she said hello and then asked me not to leave right away. I told her that I wouldn’t and that I was just at my office gathering the photos I promised her since last year. She was excited and happy to hear about it. When she got done taking care of her tax documents, she walked over to me and invited me to join her for a late lunch at the cafe downstairs. I thought to myself, “Wow! This must be one of those life moments I love!” So, I accepted her invitation and told her that I would meet her as soon as I get done.

And so, I did.

We had such a nice time! We talked about our perspectives on work, social expectations and norms and about our significant others. I cannot say enough how much I enjoyed the time I spent with her and I think she felt the same way because she said that she would like to meet up again.

I really do love random life moments such as running into someone after not seeing them for a long time and then doing something unexpected with them. It gives me a special memory of them that I cherish. One of my memories of Lupe will be the nice conversation we shared today over soup and espresso cheesecake at a cafe, at three o’clock in the afternoon, on a Thursday. It is a memory that is so simple but lasting and I think it’s one those little somethings in life that is so beautiful.

Friday Baby

I learned something new about the day I was born – it was on a Friday.

A person born between the twenty somethings of October and November is considered a SCORPIO. And, a person born between February 02, 1984 and February 19, 1985 is considered a RAT. I wonder…What does it mean when a person is born on a Friday?

For SCORPIO, here’s a bit of what the Huffington Post has to say:

“…The Scorpio motto might be “What is hidden is more interesting than what is obvious.” You are the detectives of the zodiac. Your magnetic personality draws others to you. But you can also be secretive yourself, for you learn early on that when you express everything, others may be scared by the power of your feelings. You desperately want to have someone to merge with your feelings, but can become cold and withdrawn when hurt in love. You have the magic to light up the dark, but sometimes you would benefit by looking at the positive side of things rather than going into the darkness at all.”

I cannot argue much against what Huff had to say, or rather, what its source said. I find it very deep and truthful, and that motto…Wow. Talk about spot on.

As for the RAT part of me, here’s what Travel China Guide had to say:

“Though people consider the rat not adorable, and it even makes its way into derogatory languages, it ranks first on the Chinese zodiac. It has attributes of an animal with spirit, wit, alertness, delicacy, flexibility and vitality.”

Well, ain’t that somethin’? Who knew a rat could sound so intriguing? It sounded that way to me, anyway.

Now, about FRIDAY. I did not come across what I would expect a legit website to be, but here’s what one had to say:

“Friday’s child has the supplementary ruler of Venus, the planet of beauty, love, affection, sharing, artistry, pleasure, colour, elegance, refinement and romance. This child will usually fill their lives with these beautiful things.”

How did this blogger come up with this description? Hmm…This makes me want to do more research on Friday babies.

It’s Been Yummy

There’s just something about the food this week…Yesterday was Thai, today was Italian-ish.

The conversations have been good, too, the company made it even better, and all the food we ordered tasted extra yummy. We didn’t go anywhere new or order anything new (except maybe one dish), but thinking about it now, I think it was the way we enjoyed the food together that made it extra yummy. Normally, we would each order our own dish and share an appetizer, but this time around we ordered a few things off the menu and shared it family style. It happened organically. Did I mention that the food was extra yummy?

I joined Eme and Laura for lunch today at the last minute, it was the second time in a row. As I sat down, their Chocolate Cheesecake was served and I ordered iced tea – and not just any iced tea, it was iced China Mist Tea. Though they did not have much time left in their lunch hour, our conversation was not rushed at all and time, well, time took its time.

To sum it up…We talked about trying a new restaurant that one of us has never been to, which led to one of us sharing a scandalous story about a restaurant owner and his cheating ways and the yummy food at his restaurant, which led to one of the girls sharing that she was not comfortable going to said restaurant because of the owner’s cheating ways, which led to a whole conversation about long-term relationships gone wrong and Johnny Depp.

After taking a moment and taking care of our bill, we decided to go to an Indian restaurant tomorrow.

It was interesting and it also related to how today was for me – filled with randomness and all over the place.

 

I Like How You Said That

One thing that stood out and has been on replay in my head a few times today was a conversation I had with Eme and Laura at lunch. As we were paying our bill, Eme was talking about an app she downloaded called “Mint” – it keeps track of a person’s money habits, to put it simply. Her mentioning the app reminded me of how bad I am about paying down my credit card debt, which led me to share with the girls how I’ve realized that I am better at paying off debt when I owe a person directly than when I have to do otherwise.

For example, last November I went to Hawai’i and Alabama and spent way more money than I should have. Not only did I spend a lot of my own money, I also spent my friend B’s money via her Macy’s credit card. I must say, though, I had a very good reason to shop: I needed cold weather clothes (I live on a tropical island!). Anyway, I spent about $600 in a matter of two hours. Now, if I charged that amount of money on my own credit card, I would probably only pay a little more than the minimum required amount per month and then use the card some more. In this case, because I had to pay B directly, I paid off my debt in two instalments, which was what her and I agreed on (plus, I added a little extra to cover interest).

Anyway, the thing that stood out in the conversation was when I was telling the girls something along the lines of, “I am better about paying off my debt to an actual person than when I have to pay online or onsite. I don’t know…I just can’t. <pause> I mean, I just DON’T do it…”

In response, Laura said, “I like how you said that, how you corrected yourself. That you “don’t do it” not “can’t do it”.

That really stood out to me and it got me thinking more about how I talk and the words I use. Reflecting on the conversation and noticing that I was aware about what I said at that very moment and maybe even am being more aware about how I say things in general make me feel good and more confident. I find it more and more necessary to use the right words when speaking with people and I think it’s good practice. It may seem like something so simple, but I feel it can change the meaning of your words significantly and not always in a good way.

Did you have a random moment similar to this today? Please, do share.

One Month

Many things can happen in a month.

I would like to see if I will experience any personal growth.

If any lessons will be learned or still need to be learned.

Will I have regrets?

What will my challenges be?

What will bring me happiness? Sadness?

I wonder what I can accomplish in a month…

Let’s see, shall we?